Can politics come between you and the one you’re with? How do you make a relationship last through the years? What about long distance?
POLITICS AND RELATIONSHIPS
By Marissa Hendrickson
When I first met my ex-boyfriend’s mom, she made it very clear that she was a Democrat.
Not knowing that I am a Republican, she made sure to call conservatives every name in the book, from “loony” to curse words.
After dinner, I explained to her that I was a Republican and she felt genuinely sorry. We ended up talking about hot button issues for hours, both of us making it a point to listen to each other’s perspective and trying to understand.
In the end, we broke up for a multitude of issues, but one of the issues was definitely our differing political opinions. We tried to find common ground, but never quite could. Learning from that experience, I now ask a person who I may potentially date what their political views are because I don’t want to waste my time. Of course, not all relationships will end over a difference in political views, but it is important to some.
A fellow peer, sophomore Dakota DeBaets, said her political differences from a significant other has never ruined a relationship, but has deteriorated some and strengthened others.
“My family and most of my friends are conservative Republicans and it’s difficult to talk about politics since both sides can get really upset about certain topics,” DeBaets said. “I would say I only have two exceptions to that and we make a point to talk about it to understand both sides and come out more informed and educated.”
A difference of political opinions can strengthen or ruin a relationship. If I could have another chance, I would have put my relationship before my personal views.
By Shelby Mullis
“You’ve been dating for six years?”
“You mean to tell me you’ve never broken up?”
“Since eighth grade? You’re kidding.”
Yes, my boyfriend and I have been dating for six consecutive years. No, I’m not kidding.
Forget high school sweethearts—we’re middle school sweethearts. So, how has our relationship changed from middle school, into high school and now in college?
Well, my text message signature is no longer “MBT<3 9/10/10” and we can actually go on dates without our parents dropping us off at the door of the middle school dance.
Over the last six years, I’ve lost two necklaces and a ring (we found the ring after digging through the Taco Bell trash can).
The best part?
Over six years, I’ve shared the best and worst moments of my life with my best friend. I can always count on him to buy me fries when I’m down, and he never fails to be the best he can be.
There is just one thing people do not understand.
A relationship doesn’t happen overnight, and your so-called soul mate doesn’t just pop up out of nowhere. When I first met my boyfriend at age 13 (I should mention he “slid into my DMs” by asking me for my “numba”), I never knew he would be the man I’d spend a large portion of my life with.
People are always asking what the secret to a long relationship is, but it’s simple.
The secret is loving each other unconditionally and never giving up on one another.
Whether it be poking fun at each other, or bickering over a cookie, or laughing until we cry, or calling on each other when we can’t think of the right word to say in a prayer—we always make the most of every second we spend together.
It’s not easy. It takes work. But when you find that special someone, you’ll know. And it will all be worth it.
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS
By Ashley Steeb
I am not a love expert. In fact, I don’t even really like romance. If love movies and songs are too sappy, they can sicken me.
To be honest, I have never been in a relationship because romantic love just never appealed to me.
However, if I did choose to be in a relationship, I would prefer a long-distance relationship.
Long-distance relationships receive a lot of criticism. People say, “How can you really be in relationship if you can’t see each other every day?” or, “It will not last long because you only talk on the phone.”
I’m going to be honest—I’m not the biggest people-person. Seeing my significant other every single day would drive me crazy. The relationship would actually end sooner if there was no separation between our lives.
Statistics are hard to track, but the studies show more college students and young adults moving toward long-distance relationships. Or they would not end their relationship if their significant other had to move.
In a 2005 study featured in a 2013 article from Today.com, up to 50 percent of college students are in long-distance relationships. Participants of the study in long-distance relationships said they feel closer to their partner when compared to couples who see each other every day.
I understand those statistics take a variety of factors into account, but it still proves the naysayers halfway wrong.
A long-distance relationship doesn’t mean you love your partner less than you would if you saw them every day. You might have to work harder to keep love alive, but the relationship can work—don’t give up hope.